right? They do it in books and on TV shows and in movies and comic books.
An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth and revenge is best served cold, and
all of the hoopla surrounding revenge is really just a reason to not
forgive. For me, there simply wasn’t a good enough reason to forgive my
friend. She sued me after I almost died saving her life and left me with
permanent brain damage. Wanting revenge had me holding on to negativity
and that isn’t a good look for anyone. Our hearts aren’t meant to hold on
to negativity. My need for revenge was camouflaged by wanting justice,
but it blinded me from what I needed to see, stunted my emotional growth,
forced me to sit with the negativity for too long and stopped me from being
able to ever trust anyone completely again. When I forgave myself for
wanting revenge and for being lost and not knowing how to survive any of the
obstacles life had thrown at me, I made an agreement with myself that I was ready
to release the negativity and move beyond it. Don’t forgive and
forget. Forgive and learn the lesson. Forgive and reach a new level
of awareness that allows you to become more present with yourself. The
more present I am with me, the more I understand when other people aren’t
present with me.
Wanting revenge only kept me marinating in negativity. When I found forgiveness
I had no need for revenge. I let the rage and all the negativity go and freed myself.